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Sometimes as women, we feel like we can't get made love to rather than with. Why? Missionary is so awesome, but there isn't much leverage unless you change it up a little. Receiver-on-top positions offer more variety in sex. And they're tons of fun for both partners!

How to get into it

Here, the giver should scoot back onto the end of the bed. The receiver should then straddle their lovers body. Bend your knees and get into place on top of your lover. It won't be necessarily to actually hang off the bed or laying apparatus. But it's a bonus.

Benefits for the giver 

• By laying off the bed with your head hanging, it's a bloodrush. Some could really enjoy that. Others might find it a headache. However--either way--it will add adventure!
• You're laid back 
• You don't do much work in this position. Just sit back and enjoy the thrusts--slow and fast. Work into the movements.
• In this position, you won't get much eye contact. That adds to the mystery of the position.
• You're not making eye contact, so you could fantasize about other situations/ people if you'd like
• Not into fantasy? Talk, moan and be encouraging. Again, turn-on central!
• It lacks intimacy, but that's part of the turn-on of it. Sometimes more mad, wild sex is a turn-on.
• You're not really in control of speed, so you likely won't cum as quickly. That orgasm build up will likely mean you'll have a bigger orgasm when you do cum.

Benefits for the receiver

• Like many receiver-on-top positions, the receiver controls the thrusting 
• You'll be able to move quickly or slowly. Which is best for you? In this position, you can be your own researcher. What do you like best? Worst? Which angle is best?
• Looking down on your partner, enjoy your control. Let that turn you on. 
• Voice that you're turned on, and your lover may try to please you more. Though it'll be difficult in this position, it may be a big turn on. Your partner wants to make sex amazing for you. 
• You're able to touch and caress your lover from all angles.
• Want to lmake eye contact? Communicate! Give a few compliments. Turn-on central!

Thanks to Cosmo for this recommendation. 

Why salsa? Have you ever moved your hips to a salsa song? That 8 shape with your hips, ladies? It can touch all the right spots, oh my. Try it today.

Some time ago, you saw another great, woman-on-top position called the Hipster. Not to put this lightly--woman-on-top positions rock! They're so much fun. And though you might not have a G-spot orgasm, it's not all about the orgasm as you'll see. It's just plain awesome.

How to get into it

The giver is going to be positioned over the side of the bed. Make sure that your giver is centered, otherwise someone may just fall over. To ensure leverage (which you'll need), grab something. The receiver should grab the giver's legs or hips. Don't forget the lube and go forth!

Benefits for the giver

• Again, with receiver-on-top positions, you get the opportunity to see what your partner likes best
• You're not in control, so your orgasm is going to be prolonged. Think that's a bad thing? Just wait for that titillating orgasm and you may be surprised. It'll be much more enjoyable to say the least!
• You get to see your lover's ass bounce up and down 
• Now at the perfect angle to check your partner out. Perfect time for compliments. Talking during sex can be very hot, indeed.
• Want to be extra crowd-pleaser? (Communication first so it's not too surprising) Hunch over, lick your fingers and rub your lover's nipples gently.

Benefits for the receiver

• You're in control. You define how hard, fast, slow, deep, shallow or all-out wild and crazy the tempo is.
• While you're in control, note how every angle works. Start to be your own sexual researcher and you'll start to gain more knowledge of what pleases you most. This, in turn, will be extremely useful knowledge to give to your partner!
• This is another great workout for those quads!
• You can make this position either not very intimate, where you face the other direction, or you can turn back ever-so-occasionally and look your partner in the eyes. 
• Feel free to moan when something really pleases you to tell how much something pleases you. Voicing your feelings will make your lover want to work harder to please. This makes for more enriching sex!
• Want to try something different? Have great balance? Bend forward to look at your puzzle pieces going in and out. Note how well you two fit together. But be careful if you're on the side of the bed. You may just fall off. Don't be afraid to laugh and start over if that happens. :-)

This great position was also recommended by SoFeminine.co.uk.

Got a table? A counter top? Any kind of ledge at all? Great! We've got a perfect position for ya! Today's position is "The Erotic V", and it will certainly add a little spice to the kitchen.

How to get into it

It's important for the receiver to be flexible here. If not, then the position is adjustable.

First, surprise your partner in the kitchen, or at the table by coming up behind them and kissing their neck. We'll skip past the foreplay for the sake of the article.

Bam! You're both naked and leaning against the counter or table. Lift your partner up onto the counter and slide yourself into her. To make it easier on your partner, lay him/her back onto the surface. Gently bring their legs up and rest them against your chest and shoulders. Now, very slowly, lean toward her.

Receivers, grab onto your partner's shoulders or clasp your hands behind their neck.

Givers, straighten yourself out and stand tall.

Benefits for the giver

• It will keep you on your toes sexually (and literally)
• You can speed things up or slow them down, as long as you're not pulling any of your partner's muscles.
• Having this perspective of your partner may be new to you. Watching and hearing his/her expressions from a new angle will be a huge turn-on. 
• When you're both vertical, sex is more intimate. It's not just one person fucking the other. It's more equal with no one dominating. 

And thanks to SoFeminine.co.uk for this wonderful recommendation.

This holiday season, we're being extra adventurous. But after trying all our other sex positions, we still kinda love missionary. Missionary can be mundane, but it doesn't have to be. Are you growing tired of your normal, missionary, sex routine? We love sex positions and updating the "vanilla", and sometimes boring, missionary position will definitely improve your sex life and keep things interesting and hot. Just because Freaky Friday has come and gone doesn't mean you can't mix in a little freakiness into an ordinary Monday! Go ahead and read these five variations of the standard missionary position from our Michigan-based Sexologist superstar, Megan Stubbs!

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Typically described as “man-on-top and woman-on-bottom," the missionary position classic go-to configuration is one that millions of couples have engaged in over the years. As legend has it, this position found its name from Christian missionaries because they believed this position to be the right, and only way, to have sexual intercourse. Other cultures, religions, and groups, have their own name for this position as well (the "angelic position" and "manner of serpents").

The missionary position is prized for its level of intimacy because of how close you can be with your partner. It's great for eye contact, kissing, and is fairly low impact. But if you’ve grown tired of the standard missionary, try out one of these five variations.

#1 A tight squeeze

Ladies once your partner is inside, both of you keep your legs together. Move your pelvis so it is slightly below his and have him give you deep thrusts and rock against your mons pubis. The increased tightness from your legs being together will feel great to him, and because you are positioned slightly below his pelvis, the base of his penis should rub against your clitoris.

#2 One flight up 

While on your back, bring your knees to your chest and have your partner enter you. Move your calves to rest onto his shoulders and have him brace himself with his hands by your side. This position is great for your man to run the show and leaves you open for deliciously deep penetration. Fun fact for this position: it is awesome for anal too!

#3 Give me props

Ladies, grab some pillows and prop them under your butt. Have your partner enter you and hold himself above you (think upward-facing dog) and have him give you slow deep circular thrusting motions. This position is great for him because he gets greater access to you and the angle at which your pelvis is at is perfect for G-spot stimulation.

#4 Erotic embrace

Ladies, this position plays out like standard missionary except you wrap your arms and legs around your partner. This position is great because it allows you to get maximum skin-on-skin contact with your partner. You are able to easily give kisses, whisper sweet nothings, and caress your partner's face. A rocking motion rather than thrusting can heighten the level of intimacy as well.

#5 Seeing stars

Begin having missionary style sex and as you approach climax, slide yourself to where your upper half is hanging off the edge of the bed. By now the blood should be rushing to your head and as you climax, you should experience an extraordinary sensation throughout your entire body. Don’t stay in this position too long because you may wind up seeing stars, literally, and pass out!

Sex in the shower is sort of like pizza in bed. A great idea that inevitably leads to disaster. Issues like space, how to position one's body, how to avoid broken appendages. It becomes too much to bear and the idea gets abandoned. But there has to be a way to have your pizza and eat it too and our researchers are working around the clock to find a way. In a series with long time friends and sex advisors Eli and Josie, they talk about how to maximize the pleasures of shower sex as well as instructions on what positions best fit what ever type of shower you may have.

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Dear Sexes: Is there a trick I’m missing with shower sex? I mean, it’s WAY hot, but it seems like my only options are (1) in a corner getting leg cramps, or (2) on my knees, which hurts like hell on my knee caps with the tough plastic that the shower is made of. Is this a “try it 'til you figure it out” thing, or a mythical movie type of sex?


However, there are ways to maximize the shower-sex pleasure. One key tool for great shower sex is a set of extra-cushy washcloths. For doggie-style, fold each washcloth in half and put them under your knees. If someone’s sitting on the floor of the shower, a washcloth under the bum can help a lot, too. The washcloths are also crucial for the knees of whomever is the giver of oral sex in the shower. A fun way to have sex in the shower, if you have the room, is to lie down on your back and put your partner on top. Then she can arch her back into the spray of water and you both have easy clitoral access.

Sometimes shower sex is best left short and sweet by making it a quickie or by starting the interlude in the shower, to be continued elsewhere. Try to draw out the foreplay as long as possible (but keep in mind, we’re in a water drought!) by soaping each other up, sliding slippery fingers across each other’s bodies, using the hand-held shower head on each other’s favorite spots, and giving oral sex. Then, just as you’re feeling like you’re about to die if you don’t complete the act, wrap up in towels (don’t worry about drying all the way off, stay wet!) and move to the bed. You’ll be clawing at each other from all the lead-up and you can utilize all the best in-bed positions.

He Said: Agreed! Shower sex is hot! It’s always fun to clean up and get dirty at the same time. Of course, the amount of positions you can try out is somewhat dependent on the type of shower you have. If you have a small, stand-up shower (no bath), your space is probably limited. However, you can actually use the lack of space to your benefit. Position yourself or your mate against the shower walls for extra good pushing/friction. The tiny confines also make for a good opportunity to get a leg high up in the air (resting against a wall, while your hands, or your mate, keep you upright, steadying against an opposite wall).

If you have a full shower (with bath), you really have no excuse NOT to explore all possibilities. You’ve got the room, so you’re as free as your imagination allows. And if you have sensitive knee caps, don’t be afraid to squat it out. Also, don’t forget to use plenty of lube as need be. The water actually detracts from the body’s natural lubrication. And please, no falling! We don’t want any slips causing death by shower sex.

If you want a good laugh, read what people have to say about shower sex over on Yahoo! Aren’t you glad you asked us instead?

Reprinted with permission from from The Good Men Project. Cross post from She Said He Said.

Josie is a writer living in Los Angeles. Though she has a tight circle of female friends, she's always bee a guy's gal. This advice column came about because her best girls kept begging her to ask her guy friends for sex and dating advice on their behalf. She realized that the advice they offered was honest and direct-and completely different than the advice women offered each other.

Eli is an indie-rock musician living in New York City. He loves his football and hockey as much as the next red-blooded male. But when it comes to relationships and love, he's really a true romantic. His friends (female and male) are always asking him for his dating/relationship advice due to his genuine caring, perceptiveness, and honesty. He always calls it like sees it, and usually sees it very well.